You may note a remarkable change in your child once adolescence starts, because, adolescence is a stage of physical, mental, emotional and social change. All of a sudden your bubbly, extrovert child, becomes an introvert. Some adolescents become shy and they start spending most of the time at home, either studying or sitting inside the room.
He or she refuses to mix with friends or even go out with them. You have to boost up the confidence level of your child. Let your child know that their friends are welcome to come to your house. Give them time to adjust to this new phase of their life and slowly they will come around.
He or she will become much disorganized at this stage, you will see towels thrown on the bed, shirts and pants on the floor, school books scattered on the bed and the room looking like a waste paper basket. Do not nag on them to clear their room because they have experienced the freedom of suing the word no on your which they can now do.
The best way to deal with the situation is to let them go, because it is no longer right for you to order them, which will only lead to battles between the two of you. According to an adolescent, any sort of interference from the parents is like a threat which is to their independence.
If your child never cleans up the room, let it be, because a day will come when they are unable to find a single thing out of this mess. This is the time that they will be bound to clean up the room. Let them decide from heir own mistakes. Adolescence is a period when there is increasing influence of the peer groups. Whereas, parents are faced with the problem of decreasing level of communication with the adolescent child.
It is an advice to the parents to have a close monitoring of the activities of the child. A balance between the behavior of the child and between providing independence to your adolescent must be maintained by you, since you are the parent here. The more you go into confrontation with your child, the less likely the child is going to give you the correct information. Respect their opinions and give due importance to all their thoughts as well as their feelings.
